by
Julia Serano I almost forgot about her, buried alive in the back of my mind. At the time, I was a 26-year-old closet case, a self-described occasional crossdresser. And she was just like me only vice versa.
I met her in Kansas City at my first transgender support group meeting. The chairs were set up in a circle and most of the seats were filled with middle-aged transvestites in their 40s and 50s. They were painstakingly dressed, wearing Sunday’s best, floral prints and muted pinks with just a hint of five o’clock shadow. Looking strangely sweet, almost equal parts aunt and uncle. And she seemed so out of place there, the only one in t-shirt and jeans. And genetically speaking, she was the only girl in the room. And chronologically we were the only two in our twenties.
After the meeting’s minutes and a guest speaker from Mary Kay offering make-up tips, she introduced herself to me. She told me her name was Joan; I told her mine was Tom. And after a bit of random chitchat, she asked if I wanted to hang out some time. I said “sure,” and a week later we did. . . .
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Julia Serano is a trans-activist, writer, a poetry slam champion, guitarist/vocalist for the noisy-pop band Bitesize, and the host of the music and spoken word show GenderEnders. She is the author of a powerful new book,
"Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism And The Scapegoating of Femininity." Highly recommended! Check out her various creative endeavors at
www.juliaserano.com.